We asked our members what helped them when receiving initial support from others...

We asked our members what helped them when receiving initial support from others...

Gemma

“The thing I found helpful were people using Oscar’s name, still asking me what he looked like, weighed etc and also leaving food on the doorstep so we could still feed George healthy meals even if we didn’t feel like eating ourselves…”

Georgia agreed:

“Yes to all of this ‘I’ll leave it on the doorstep’. I had a friend text to say she’d bought some food and was going to drop it off in 5-10 mins, she would knock the door but there was no pressure to answer if I didn’t want to see her. A few weeks later, I still hadn’t seen her but she screenshotted a SANDs Instagram post about checking in on your loss friends and see if they would like to meet for a coffee. Again, she said there was no pressure, but reminded me she would keep bugging me. And honestly, it was so nice that she kept pestering me every so often, because although I didn’t want to communicate back to start with, it reminded me she was there.”

Mel:

“I had the same. One friend sent us a weeks worth of meals from Cook which was nice. Another friend left us food and instructions along with windmills for Noah and Lucas and seeds to plant for both of them. I always say to people that they can ask me anything about the boys, saying our children’s names means the world. Yes, you remember who metaphorically keeps knocking at your door.”